I feel like we have discussed this before, but I can't find the topic anywhere. Actually, I have two questions, maybe three. Let me give you some of the back story. My Fiancee and I have two weddings to attend in November (again people, weddings on Saturdays during college football season is NOT acceptable!). These two weddings will make it seven for us this year. Typically, if the couple was my friend first, I buy the gift, and they were my Fiancee's friend first, she buys. We approach things a little differently. I generally scour the register online with a budget in mind, and look for things, or a combination of things, that are in my price range and have it shipped to the couple's house. She likes to go to the store, take the gift home and wrap it herself.
Also, my Fiancee is attending the shower for one of these weddings this weekend. She's trying to figure out what she is supposed to buy for the shower gift.
I Googled the question, "How much should you spend on a wedding gift?" and the answers varied.
About.com said, "The general rule of thumb is to try to estimate how much your meal will cost, or generally between $65 and $150 per person." Sounds rather steep.
WeddingChannel.com had surprisingly practical advice, "The rule of thumb is that you shouldn’t spend more than you can afford. If money is an issue, try your hardest not to be impulsive when you’re out there shopping for just the right present."
And Emily Post decided to remain mostly neutral, "There is no rule, so it is entirely up to you. Let your affection for the bride and groom and your budget be your guide."
But I'm not really interested in hearing what the internet thinks you SHOULD spend. I want to know what all of you out there actually DO spend on wedding gifts. So, here are my questions:
- How much DO you spend on wedding gifts?
- Do you double that number if you are attending "with guest" or as a couple, as opposed to single?
- How much do you spend on Shower or Engagement gifts?
I wanted to create a poll, but I'm just not tech savvy enough. So, if you would leave me responses in your comments, I would appreciate it. I'm just trying to get an informal idea of how people deal with this never ending issue.